Of late I have realized that feelings are some things that all of us have. Some of us are more conscious to be aware of them, some even though aware ignore them and some are not even aware of their own feelings or only realize it much slowly.
There are advantages in being each kind and with that there are disadvantages as well. Personally I feel that the one type I mentioned in the middle is able to use its feelings to its own, maximum benefit. However that part of the spectrum is very narrow and difficult to stay in.
What I think is that feelings are one of the most personal things to us. They are so very personal that their ownership is completely ours and nobody can have any sort of claim on them. Since generation of feelings is also a very personal experience then should we not attach a very high premium to this experience? This I say so because the feelings affect us in so many ways. They affect us in the shorter as well as the longer term. They can actually break us apart or guide us through an unimaginably difficult situation, safely.
In spite of the high value of the feeling, when we chose to experience them, the premium that we attach to having this experience is very low. We do not take control to decide that If we want to experience this or not. We just swim with the flow of thoughts that are gushing in the mind. We act as if we have no control in generating these feelings.
What we really seek to experience is dependent on the external factors. However this dependency is over-rated and the constant in the direct proportion has very less value. In reality what we choose to experience is something that we can manufacture.
The words say enough “choose to experience”. The words say enough on how the life of a person would be shaped. Choices are pervasive, it’s a matter of being aware and making the right ones.
